tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10539912.post111262362163663820..comments2024-03-09T20:09:10.016-05:00Comments on Heartcrossings: Desi Breeding MachinesHeartcrossingshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11611681863892546438noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10539912.post-1112704773605384512005-04-05T08:39:00.000-04:002005-04-05T08:39:00.000-04:001. I wonder, how can they afford it?2. For many wo...1. I wonder, how can they afford it?<BR/><BR/>2. For many women (desi and otherwise) the kids are a ticket to drop out of the wrokforce and live the easy life. The BA and MA degrees were to snag that "prince" of a husband and once that purpose is served(?), why bother??<BR/><BR/>3. When they get out of the "park" stage, they will start competing on the child's grades and Bharat Natyam Arangetram playground.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10539912.post-1112638669419699712005-04-04T14:17:00.000-04:002005-04-04T14:17:00.000-04:00First off...good writing, as always!! :-))Come sum...First off...good writing, as always!! :-))<BR/>Come summer and the parks are almost always full of desis - pregnant and/or with kids...I hear what you are saying, in the comments as well. I am not sure really if the sad and harried looks on the parents faces has only to do with the number of kids they end up having....<BR/>I have American friends who are SAHM...one family has 5 boys - all home schooled. The other family has 6 children. Another friend has 5 children, its a blended family, with an adopted child and they are in the process of adopting a precious boy from an African country. And....I have an Indian friend, with 2 girls and the most unkempt house, kids, car...u know what I mean. (snotty nosed and stale stinking food...yeah!!)<BR/>While I understand that u are talking about economic and social pressures (assembly line production induced!), there is the other more important thing we all miss....Indian women tend to forget themselves faster than American women...<BR/>the parenting is so full of running behind kids and feeding them till they are 8 or 10, tying shoe laces and doing homework...on and on it goes. But then, there is also the rather painful issue of money. While these American moms have some liberty to spend their husband's money...the desi women generally have tighter fisted husbands...<BR/>with less helpful husbands, they are under more pressure because they have to conform to not just their husbands and in-laws and parents and their ideas of parenting among other things, but also to the society they live in. One that scares, threatens and challenges core beliefs and the value systems theya re more comfortable with. It can very demanding with one child...and when they decide they want more, for whatever reasons, it gets really hard!! <BR/>My thoughts....:-)) Of course, I dont have kids, so I probably cant say I understand!Arpana Sanjayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11105327830137369428noreply@blogger.com