tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10539912.post1518785265653243189..comments2024-03-09T20:09:10.016-05:00Comments on Heartcrossings: Dating And MarriageHeartcrossingshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11611681863892546438noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10539912.post-12153734773386534122009-02-19T20:04:00.000-05:002009-02-19T20:04:00.000-05:00Vikas - Unfortunately a lot of people do see datin...Vikas - Unfortunately a lot of people do see dating as a means to an end (i.e marriage) and not an end in itself as you point out.And that is why people get exhausted from being on the "dating scene" forever.<BR/><BR/>Kiran - Thanks for stopping by and your kind words for my story Two Loves and I. I left a comment on your blog post about your dying friend - I can't even begin to imagine how you are coping. You are absolutely right, we all need a Tuhin to balance the Amans of our lives.<BR/><BR/>Ananva - Yes, its often a lifetime of knowing or finding out that there is yet more to know...Heartcrossingshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11611681863892546438noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10539912.post-34224400756622955102009-02-19T16:09:00.000-05:002009-02-19T16:09:00.000-05:00Have been reading your blog for a while now. I lik...Have been reading your blog for a while now. I liked this post. I agree with you- dating may or may not reveal the true person you are seeking, people put up appearances. And frankly, how long does it take to get to know someone? A lifetime IMO.Ananvahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13185662331082885558noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10539912.post-84742402620749153812009-02-19T09:43:00.000-05:002009-02-19T09:43:00.000-05:00Interesting viewpoint.Many, many people dont know ...Interesting viewpoint.<BR/><BR/>Many, many people dont know exactly what they want and what attributes a "significant other" must display to make a long term relationship like a marriage work well.<BR/><BR/>As a middle class desi semi conservative and educated young adult, I certainly did not definitively know the answers. I didnt even know what attributes people were capable of displaying.<BR/><BR/>Dating and exposing myself to some heart break and happiness in equal measures allowed me to explore, not so much other people, as myself. I found what I liked and what I needed to make me happy. I could never have found that without reference of context... context in this case being other people.<BR/><BR/>I read your essay from a few years ago on Aman and Tuhin and was moved beyond words. I think we all have an Aman in our lives. Here is my Aman and what became of him.<BR/><BR/>http://chammakchallo.blogspot.com/2009/02/heavy.html<BR/><BR/>My Tuhin however turned out to be my soulmate of the last 20 years.<BR/><BR/>The Amans in our life will always remain immortal, but sometimes we need the Tuhins too.Another Kiran In NYChttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15949641865013106368noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10539912.post-17990017262985218182009-02-19T08:07:00.000-05:002009-02-19T08:07:00.000-05:00Interesting, incisive comment on dating and marria...Interesting, incisive comment on dating and marriage. We are on the same wavelength on this as well.<BR/><BR/>I have never dated anyone in life! I only knew the two meanings of date (day, fruit)until the age of 18! <BR/><BR/>I don't consider dating as a necessary precursor to marriage. <BR/><BR/>I am inclined to thinking that most people do not think of dating as a means to an end but see it as an end in itself. <BR/><BR/>These are also the people who will cringe at the sight of wedding ring!<BR/><BR/>I am inclined to thinking that there is some sixth sense with human beings which enables us to make such choices. Any other exercise is often unnecessary and merely an alibi for something else.Vikas Guptahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17198328373273965602noreply@blogger.com