tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10539912.post4196492067649316433..comments2024-03-09T20:09:10.016-05:00Comments on Heartcrossings: InfallibleHeartcrossingshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11611681863892546438noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10539912.post-57956279001002092522009-05-01T09:07:00.000-04:002009-05-01T09:07:00.000-04:00HC,
I wholeheartedly agree with Priyamvada, whose ...HC,<br />I wholeheartedly agree with Priyamvada, whose response, by the way, was immensely insightful, mature and wise. <br />I really think that D's bitchiness (for that is what it appears to be) is driven by her insecurities. <br />Something about you is probably making her fel threatened and insecure. <br />I often feel that people who appear to be very 'together' are actually extremely insecure and have self-esteem issues. Their detemination to excel at everything is often a compensatory mechanism for feelings of inadequacy and insecurity. <br />Such people are often perplexed and threatened when they meet people who appear to be very comfortable and happy in their own skin. Since I have been reading your blog for so long, you come across as just that kind of person! :)<br /><br />PreetiAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10539912.post-61602653907768131842009-04-28T10:58:00.000-04:002009-04-28T10:58:00.000-04:00HC,
You said in the beginning D was polite and r...HC,<br /> You said in the beginning D was polite and responded to the need of the situation. She was kind, and did not intrude. Now she is a different person.<br /><br />This may have less to do with you and more to do with D. May be something is making D insecure - or else why would she feel the need to act superior? It could be financial insecurity. Or perhaps she doesn't feel as needed - at home or elsewhere - and she wants to prove that she is this person who is superior, super-efficient etc. Something has made her bitter and feel less useful now that the daughter is an adult. <br /><br />Perhaps she has had some losses in her life, and she is not as empathetic anymore. Grief can make a person act in ways they normally don't; after losing my father I have not been able to summon much feeling for a lot of things - a sense of indifference or impatience about many things. I catch myself usually when I feel like this and try not to hurt people.<br /><br />Or perhaps D feels she has made it with her daughter and has earned her right to pontificate.<br /><br />Whatever it is - it has nothing to do with you. If it is insecurity or loss you could try asking about her and being kind and patient (you might have done this already - you seem like a kind, empathetic person). Beyond extending that olive branch, there is nothing much one can do.<br /><br />Priya.Priyamvada_Khttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06797797769716970487noreply@blogger.com