tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10539912.post874231336862800644..comments2024-03-09T20:09:10.016-05:00Comments on Heartcrossings: The Delusion of a Heavenly MarriageHeartcrossingshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11611681863892546438noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10539912.post-80040689728404616572008-03-28T16:12:00.000-04:002008-03-28T16:12:00.000-04:00in want of being me - Thanks ! It seems like the s...in want of being me - Thanks ! It seems like the social support system that it took for less than perfect marriages to work out over time is missing these days. <BR/><BR/>There is an expectation that your marriage must be made in heaven to be worth anything. Like with everything else these days, the standards are impossibly high. <BR/><BR/>Those who don't quite make it and can't bring themseleves to spilt will resort to delusion.<BR/><BR/>ggop - That is just the kind of woman that inspires some concern in me. It is normal to develop common interests over time but to go to that kind of extreme is usually a sign of something wrong. <BR/><BR/>Groupie is the word that does come close to describing it. Delusion is like a high - you don't see reality for what it is. <BR/><BR/>It usually takes something incredibly painful to snap out of it and become aware of what is really going on.<BR/><BR/>letters2d - I don't think all marriages are mediocre and/or loveless. I have had the good fortune of seeing some pretty strong marriages that have stood the test of time. <BR/><BR/>The thing that they all have in common is the sense of being grounded. The couple is comfortable in their own skin and with each other. They rarely talk about how much they love each other but you can tell they share something very special.I have seen crisis bring out the very best in such couples. <BR/><BR/>Just as obsence ostentation is to a parvenu,so is the delusion of heavenly bliss to those in anything but a good marriage. When you are truly happy you won't need to flaunt it constantly.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14968555983253784294noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10539912.post-61847650910210566012008-03-28T15:47:00.000-04:002008-03-28T15:47:00.000-04:00You almost make it sound like all marriages will e...You almost make it sound like all marriages will end up being mediocre, if not loveless at best ;-), so get over it. As far as being delusional, I have seen men equally tickled pink, the first few months/years of their marriage. It's like when you are working at this new place, you want to learn and be on top of everything. But give it a year and you go 'yeah whatever'.letters2dhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11905635739564331809noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10539912.post-45044406265546713032008-03-28T13:58:00.000-04:002008-03-28T13:58:00.000-04:00I never thought of this delusion aspect. I have se...I never thought of this delusion aspect. I have seen women who totally adored their husbands, it was really amusing. These guys were our colleagues and we'd marvel at their hero-worship groupie behavior. They'd force themselves to like organized sports like football because their husbands were into it.ggophttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13152025930955161430noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10539912.post-78017346663005898912008-03-28T05:40:00.000-04:002008-03-28T05:40:00.000-04:00Bitter truth strewn around with beautiful words. "...Bitter truth strewn around with beautiful words. <BR/><BR/>"He is her diamond in the rough, and she will in time have turned into the Hope"<BR/>- Many women think this way, but unfortunately that never happens so. <BR/><BR/>Also, most people tend to live with it, listening to the stories which they imagine are worse then theirs. So they stick on. Another main is because splitting is taboo.<BR/><BR/>Very beautifully written.O Rellyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05537205375459011123noreply@blogger.com