Saturday, May 13, 2006

Conspiracy Of Marriage

Kristin Armstrong's opinion piece about marriage hits the nail on the head when she says :

Here is the truth as I see it: Marriage has the potential to erode the very fiber of your identity. If you aren't careful, it can tempt you to become a "yes woman" for the sake of salvaging your romantic dream. It can lure you into a pattern of pleasing that will turn you into someone you'll hardly recognize and probably won't like. I am warning you because I only wish someone had warned me.

Though she writes of lessons learnt as a celebrity ex-wife, the potential of marriage to erode a woman's (and in many cases a man's) identity is equal opportunity and applies to regular folk. When one partner's sense of self is irretrievably lost, the marriage is on the rocks - they are no longer interesting to themselves or their spouse. The end can come in that epiphany moment when the answer to the question "Who am I ?" turns out to be " I don't have a clue"

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