Saturday, November 07, 2009


A friend and I were chatting a few days ago about the how kids act one way when being observed by their parents and in another way in their absence. As much as we would like to know how our children think, feel and act we become an interference by the very act of observation. This is a lot like Heisenberg's Uncertainty Principle. Read this beautiful passage on the phenomenon of the observer influencing (and therefore changing) the nature of the observed :

There are three components to every manifestation: the observer, the observed and the context or environment of the observation. There are three together represent an intention that is desired to be expressed to be both experienced and observed and it is though the observation that experience is had. This phenomenon of the illusion of a separate observer and an observed also gives rise to an inherent duality. In this regard, duality is an inescapable phenomenon of Creation.

In the context of our conversation the observer and the observed are interchangeably the parent and the child. The environment of observation may be a child's room, the school, the childcare center, a friend's home or a playground. The parent is often desirous of expressing love, protection and concern. The child may seek among a lot of other things attention or affection or both. Being that their roles are fluid and interchangeable make their interaction as the observer-observed pair even more complex than the duality that is inherent in nature.

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