A video in full color of the fetus in-utero as memorabilia for the parents feels so totally unnecessary. While the discussion on protecting the health of the woman and her baby is very much in order, isn't there also the issue of the unborn's privacy and right to have some peace ?
I look at the fetus being a victim of the parent's reckless hedonism which does not bode well for the postpartum future. These are probably the same parents that will take the show on the road outfitted exclusively in designer labels and flaunt them like they would their material goods.
The act of a father filming child birth to me is equally repugnant. It would take a man completely dispassionate about the pain of a woman to be able to do that. What is surprising that most women do not view it as such - we have been conditioned to believe that child birth is a magic moment and that the man in our lives is doing us a favor by recording the event in full color for us and perpetuity. Having bonded in physical pain as much as in pleasure, having felt her pain in his heart and soul is truer, higher magic to me.
I never fail to remind J that there is a time and place for everything. It is possibly the line she will remember me by when I am dead and gone given how frequently she hears it. Instead of having her breakfast she will break into a song and dance number from High School Musical well past eight on Monday morning. She will insist that I watch and applaud the performance instead of screaming at her to finish her milk and cereal. Her sense of occasion is seriously lacking but then so is mine. Consider for example, a person walks into the grocery store with the express purpose of buying detergent because they are fresh out of it and laundry is only half way done. However instead of heading straight for detergent, they wander over to the natural foods aisle and go berserk upon finding goat milk on sale for a dollar a gallon. They at once proceed to stock pile so they can turn it to huge quantities home-made feta cheese. That person would be me. It would not concern me in the least that I ha...
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Priya.
Priya.
You provoke me to make yet another of my infamous broad brush generalizations with that data on the 4th child :-) Sensitivity in men is most not enough to overcome their basic instincts.
hey hc.
sorry to sound a lil confused, but jeez , are we still in the caves. I thought women had more control of their bodies and the decision of wether and when to have a baby. Is it back to a man's basic instincts.
Do enlighten me.
We may technically be out of the caves but sometimes the in the mind we still dwell right there.
A woman can be coerced emotionally or as a result of financial dependence to bear bore children than she cares to.
I have a number of girl-friends in this country who did not want to have a second child but went on to have one because of one or both reasons.
A child who does not get a warm welcome from both parents is indeed very unfortunate. There are many such kids around. My heart goes out to them.
I dont think anyone can really overcome those basic instincts HC...not men, not women. It's what constitutes us!!
Good read, as always...enjoyed the exercise!! ;-)