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Changing Pace

This blog has been a big part of my life for the last five years. Besides giving me the opportunity to connect with a number of interesting people and share my thoughts and ideas with them, it has been a form of daily meditation for me. No matter what the day threw my way, I made a very deliberate effort to find a little quiet time to write.The process of thinking about what to write and then the act of writing itself worked as an antidote to aggravations big and small.
Five and half years ago, when I started Heartcrossings both my personal and professional lives left a lot to be desired for. The only real happiness I had was in being J's mother. While that was often enough to make me forget what I did not have, I sorely needed a third place to call my own and shape in the likeness of my dreams. This blog has been where there were no limits or constraints and that was absolutely exhilarating - it is the reason I have been able to nurture it for as long and as much as I have.
A lot has changed since then. Professionally, I have found my niche and am happy with where am today and can be in the future. The idea of being a single mother transitioned from being a handicap to being a source of strength. The most recent change in has been my marriage to a wonderful man whom I will refer to as DB. As we build our new life together  and work on J getting comfortable with having a father in her life, I will need to take time and energy away from my favorite third place of over five years. I will continue to write here but not as frequently and I may also take a different very direction with my blog.
I hope all of you who read this blog will continue to check in every once in a while.

Comments

Anonymous said…
..It was surprising that you did not had a blog post on your miscarriage...Congratulations on Marriage and all the best!!
Anonymous said…
Wow, congratulations !

I read your blog regularly, delurking for the first time though :)
Radhika said…
Congratulations! I am in the habit of checking your blog everyday, I will sorely miss you and your posts.
Huzefa Mukadam said…
Am a regular reader.

I am so happy for you.

Wish you all the best.
Anonymous said…
De-lurking to congratulate you and DB :) Wishing all 3 of you a brilliant life together.

Your daily posts will be missed.
Anonymous said…
Congrats !! Hope J will be as happy as she deserves.. !! Nothing else matters.
unpredictable said…
Congrats on your wedding and hope you guys have every happiness one can ever have. :)
NM said…
Congratulations! that came out of nowhere! So incidentally do you intend to remain anonymous or is there a way one can get to know you better ? You are after all one of my favorite bloggers :)
Anonymous said…
Wonderful news! May you and DB have a beautiful life together full of love and happiness.

I have said it in an earlier comment and I will reiterate it here, your blog has grown to be an integral part of my daily routine. Your writing resonates with my thoughts, many a times I have read an article in NYT or elsewhere and found you voicing the same thoughts that I had while reading the item. I will continue to check on you daily, hoping for you to post something. Just don’t pull a MIA on us!

Nevertheless, am very happy for you and am sending my genuine and heartfelt best wishes your way.

PG
Indian Madder said…
Congratulations!! This is wonderful news :).... I wish you, DB and J a long and happy life together, with lots of love and laughter to light your way.
Will miss your posts though...please, please take some time for an occasional post! :)

All the best!
Anonymous said…
I am a reader of your blog and admired your courage and conviction.

Congratulations on your marriage to a wonderful man.

You give so much positive message to people though your blog. I hope many young women will get the message from your writings.

Have a wonderul life

God bless.

Vetrimagal.

PS. could not use my google account. Soem hitch.
Ananth said…
Wow..Thats great news..From the day I discovered your blog, I have visited it daily for new posts everyday.

Congrats and All the best.. !!!
Feminazi said…
Hey HC
I am so happy for you. As others have said before, you are an integral part of my morning routine as well.

Please take the time out to blog, on how life has changed for you. The way you succinctly word your feelings amazes me.
Priyamvada_K said…
HC,
Wowww! What lovely news! Congratulations. I wish you all the VERY best in your life with DB.

I hope he knows what a treasure you and J are, and cherishes you both. Very, very happy for you.

Love, and hugs,
Priya.
neha vish said…
Congratulations! :) Hope you, DB and J have wonderful years ahead..

Blogs do suck the energy out sometimes, but perhaps this will fit somewhere in your routine..

(Here's hoping!)
ggop said…
HC,
Congratulations on beginning a new chapter in life. Wishing you all the best! Will definitely check this space periodically.
Anonymous said…
Congratulations!! Read your blog daily and enjoy your writings. You deserve your happiness. Will miss your daily posts. Here's wishing all 3 of you a joyous future.
Unknown said…
Congratulations on Marriage...
Anonymous said…
Have been reading you since DSS days, and have enjoyed every post. You have always provided interesting and thought-provoking view-points.

Congratulations, and best wishes for a great life ahead!

ano
Choxbox said…
Congrats and wishing J, DB and you lots of happiness.
Heartcrossings said…
Thanks everyone for your good wishes for us. DB, J and I are still in the early stages of learning how to be a cohesive family unit. Some challenges were anticipated but there are surprises every day.
Vikas Gupta said…
Wow, my heartfelt congratulations! Really happy for you. :)

PS: Just saw your update on FB as I am mostly busy now.
Vikas Gupta said…
Wow, my heartfelt congratulations! Really happy for you. :)

PS: Just saw your update on FB as I am mostly away from net.
Anonymous said…
Congratulations HC!
Wish you a very happy married life.
And dont worry about the challenges.A life full of ups and downs and fights and making up wins handsdown over a placid one, No? At least that has kept me from walking out all these years :)
Anonymous said…
Congratulations Heartcrossings !

I visited your blog after a long time. Hence this belated good wishes.

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