In this WSJ pod-cast Toni Ko, the founder of Nyx talks about a small but illustrative event in her short lived marriage. When her husband asked her what she wanted for dinner, she lost her mind and blew up - after a long day overloaded with decision making, this was yet another one and she just could not deal with it. When she looks back, she realizes that her husband had only good intent when he asked her what she wanted for dinner; yet in her mental state she was unable to meet him even half way. Her interview is worth listening to in its entirety for its honesty and life lessons. But this little anecdote felt oddly relatable.
Not just in marriage but even in other areas of life, we can experience fatigue to the point where it becomes impossible to see what is well-intentioned. We are very done and are desperate for a break - it is just not a good time. When that tidal wave of exhaustion passes, it becomes evident that we were wrong. But by then, it is too late to undo the damage. Like Ko, we may choose to remind ourselves of that mistake so we show more forbearance going forward.
Not just in marriage but even in other areas of life, we can experience fatigue to the point where it becomes impossible to see what is well-intentioned. We are very done and are desperate for a break - it is just not a good time. When that tidal wave of exhaustion passes, it becomes evident that we were wrong. But by then, it is too late to undo the damage. Like Ko, we may choose to remind ourselves of that mistake so we show more forbearance going forward.
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