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Fading Etiquette

So many views on our collective Zoom etiquette or lack thereof. A woman I know has a rule that she does not show up on camera unless until the screen has spilt into atleast eight so her face does not fill up the entire space. It is not something I had considered or worked up a formula as she had. You want to be seen but not with every defect visible.

I had to stop by at the local branch of my bank recently and saw a woman ahead of me wearing a mask with an oversize YSL logo and a good amount of eye-makeup. A study in contrast I suppose. Some of us want to take a break from putting a face on and getting in front of camera all day long and others want to make the most of what remains visible. I completely agree with this CEO who says dress-pants aren't returning after the pandemic. I personally have no desire to wear them ever again and from what I know, other women would agree.

Women have traded business suits and tailored pants for clothes with more stretch. With millions of Americans now using their living rooms as offices, donning casual tees or hoodies during video calls has become the norm.

When people dress up for Zoom like they are in a physical office, everyone notices and they get compliments. It's not expected and if we choose to go out of our way for whatever reason, no one else feels obligated to follow suit. So the enthusiasm for dressing up for work does not last too long. 

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