One of the ways that toxic masculinity manifests itself in the workplace is the inability of many men to work in co-operative manner, manage their emotions (which they have plenty of) productively and engage like responsible adults working on a common goal. Frequently it falls to the "team mother" to bring order and harmony in the environment. The men who operate within this misguided concept of masculine are unable to give or receive help. The only way they feel in control of the situation is when they are in charge, when no ideas other than theirs receive any air time. Being in this environment is draining for women professionally just as dealing with this is in personal life.
Lucky are the women who have male colleagues and bosses who are male but non-toxic. Luckier are those who have such men in their personal life. I had an amusing experience not too long ago with a man who was advocating we stick with the facts and not get emotional about a situation with a client that was causing the team an incredible amount of stress. Right after this conversation, the client was assigned the "team mother" to pacify, soothe and otherwise make comfortable.
This woman put in a ton of emotional labor to make the men on the client's team feel better about the dumpster fire they had started and refused to do anything about. None of it had anything to do with facts even remotely. It was a prime example of men of a certain type failing to perform as well-functioning human adults and making society at large and women in particular become responsible for managing their tantrums and diapers.
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