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Age Successfully

The pictures of aging celebrities on magazine covers makes me think of how much help they had over the years and every day to achieve that look. If your look is what earns your money makes every sense to invest in it continuously if you want to keep that paycheck coming for many years. This is no different that a good developer learning and keep up with current technology so they remain competitive in the market full of new and hungry talent. There are those who are the very gainfully and profitably employed into their 60s and 70s because of their level of investment. They are masters of the game and everyone in the business looks up to them. The truth is very few in the developer community have what it takes to age well. Most will fade out to irrelevance well before 60.

It would be unthinkable and absurd to feature developers who have aged successfully on the cover of top publications in technology. It is an even bigger stretch to imagine a not so well aging developer looking these covers and feeling inadequate. But at the checkout register at the local grocery stores, women are seeing the pictures of models and actresses in their 60s and 70s and asking themselves, why they are nowhere in the same ballpark. It often prompts them to take action to "improve" their appearance to that unattainable standard. They don't see this as an absurd undertaking with no redeeming value if the focus is on the look and not on the feel. This is not even going into the reasons why some parts of the population simply don't have the privilege to age well.

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