Finding Passion

I have long believed that the advice about finding your passion (and the rest will magically follow) is too simplistic and does not work for most people in the real world. Glad to see this article debunking the  “find your passion,” advice. The author notes that treating passion as a fixed trait waiting to be discovered is limiting and often counterproductive. Could not agree more. Research shows that believing passion is something innate narrows our interests, reduces creativity, and leads to disappointment when motivation inevitably wanes during tough times. The notion of  developing passions by exploring new interests with curiosity and openness is a much more productive one. People can cultivate multiple passions over time, enriching creativity and adaptability. 

The risk of too much passion can become obsessive, risking burnout and harming well-being, so it’s important to balance intense focus with periods of rest. I have seen this happen to several people over the years. A few have burnt out but others have stuck with their passions doggedly because they have no other options. The once passion may have turned into something else entirely with the passage of time yet they cling to it for life. My mother gave me a piece of advice when I was in high-school that I recall to this day and gratefully. She told me to write everyday because it feeds my soul but not try to make a career out of it until I am a stage of life when that is can be an option without causing any disruption.

 I have written consistently and with no other goal other than to feel a sense of satisfaction much like a carpenter might find from working on a piece of wood to turn it into something they have in mind. It does not matter what the end product is or what time it takes to get there, the process is fulfilling on its own. I did not ever have to find my passion because I knew what it was but acting on it ( by attempting make a living as a writer and take care care of my responsibilities as a single mother) wouldn't have served me well.