My friend T and her husband F share a warm and uncomplicated relationship in which it's easy for others to relax. We have know them over a decade and seem them develop this quiet confidence of a pair that is a self-sustained unit. While they are friendly people, they are have a minimal and selective approach to socialization, valuing their own time together higher than everything else. I know folks that are much more entertaining to be around but not rejuvenating as T and F.
Their ability to flow together as an organic whole brings a peaceful quality to interactions. It's as if conflict dissolves upon touching them. This must be the thing that others sense as good vibes around them. Over the years when I an interviewing for a job, I find myself increasingly asking to talk to as many members of the team as I can directly or in a small group setting. I find it s a very useful way to decide if we can get along and be productive together. Like this couple, teams that are high functioning often have good, welcoming energy and conflicts tend not to escalate.
Some scientists suggest that good and bad vibes in a particular place — or, the “energy" of it — may, in fact, be our perception of positive or negative chemosignals left over in that particular environment. In this sense, it may, indeed, be possible to pick up on whether a place has "good vibes." It's important to note that this is a new field of research. There are still a lot of unknowns.
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