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Fall Wife

I am not sure what kind of vows the this man exchanged with his wife at the time of their marriage but blaming her for his troubles seems like a move he borrowed from another political guy in a bit of trouble. Seems to a popular playbook these days frame the wife and claim the man had nothing to with it. For one thing that is a very public declaration of a dubious if not sham marriage - if the parties are that far apart and oblivious to each other's activities, then they are not even friendly room-mates never mind spouses. Why are we calling this a marriage?

 If they want to benefit from the state of matrimony the union should somewhat resemble the standard of marriage established by their officiating institution - both church and state in this case. Maybe there comes a point when the marriage gets so dysfunctional that it should be invalidated for legal and religious purposes even if the parties want to continue the social charades and play house. 

The tax-payer sponsored benefits must most definitely cease. In family court judges ask if you washed your spouses laundry or made them dinner - if  you did, you are still married and can't claim separation. I wonder where the activities of these two wives who have made so much news recently fall on that scale. Are their "alleged" solo activities commensurate with the state of being married at all?

On the other hand if this kind of excuse is accepted for blatantly bad behavior, then it sets the stage for lesser mortals to emulate the example. Wouldn't it be interesting if the NJ politician was able to get away with his don't blame me, it was my wife line, then it becomes acceptable for couples at least in that state to get away with all manner of malfeasance - one of the two will pretend to be unaware of the mischief their spouse was up to even though said mischief was making them richer by the minute. 

They can always say the other party was taking care of finances and they did not pay attention to the fact that they had acquired five new homes in the last five years or spent ten times as much on vacations this year than they did last year. It also calls into question the mental health of the person and their ability to hold any responsible office. If they can't stay on top of what is going on at home, maybe they should be relieved of the burdens of state and nation. Another guy in bit of legal trouble was not able to blame it all on his wife - almost have to respect him for taking the fall. 

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